CAN YOU DRINK THE CUP?

  CAN YOU DRINK THE CUP?          CAN YOU DRINK THE CUP?         Introduction              This book I am basing my reflection on was written by Henri shortly before he died. “Can you Drink the Cup” is based on Mathew 20: 20-23. It is about Zebedee’s sons and their mother coming to Jesus to ask whether they could sit one on the right and the other on the left in Jesus’ Kingdom . The question that Jesus asked James and John makes the subject of this book. Jesus did not address the question to the mother but to the sons knowing that they must have been the ones who sent the mother. The fact that they came together meant that they had already discussed.  We will reflect on the cup as the symbol of our spiritual journey. We will look at the three images of the cup used by Henri: the holding, the lifting and the drinking. We will look at some of the ways that a cup is used and what we use it for. Just as the cup can be used for many things, our lives too can be used for many things. Some of these ways are good and others not so good.  Holding the Cup    When we put something in the cup it is obvious that to drink what is in we have to hold the cup. It is extremely important that we know what we are drinking. It is much more important with our lives that we know what we are living. It does not matter how many years we have lived but if we don’t reflect on our lives they become meaningless. The saying is true that, “ a life that is not reflected on is not worth living”. When we don’t reflect on what we are living we end up being at the mercy of circumstances. We live whatever comes and are controlled by it. When we reflect we are able to see where we have come from and are more open to the future and can plan. We need to reflect about our life, share it with others and evaluate how we are living.  Reflecting will help us to be focused because in reflecting we ask ourselves questions such as: what am I living, is it worth it, is it good or bad, what do I need to do? Etc. Our experiences of Joy and pain in our lives come not so much from what we live but mostly from the way we think and feel about it. We get in touch with the many good things that come our way as well as the many struggles. Reflecting is very important for growth , development and change. Holding the cup of our life means that we look at our life in a critical way. This demands a lot of courage because we may get very frightened at what we see and be tempted to give up . Many questions may arise that we are not able to answer. Fears, doubts, temptations emerge which can make us decide to just live. If we decide to live without  reflecting we can end up wandering aimlessly. When we look at life critically though it be painful, we maintain our vision and direction. When the past is painful there is temptation to want to forget it and continue living.  To live a reflective life demands hard discipline and because it is painful at times we tend to just move with the flow . We need patience to stop and ask ourselves what we are given to drink, what is in the cup and whether it is safe to drink. Cups are very different and even what we are given to drink and this is because we are so unique. If we are unique it means there is something special that only we as individuals can do and nobody else and if we do not do it, it will remain undone. It is a very big responsibility which we often do not take seriously. Though many people can help us to live our lives, at the end each one will have to make their own choices.  The cup of our life is also a cup of sorrow the same sorrows that made Jesus ask that the cup be removed from him at the garden of Gethsemane. In the midst of sorrow there is also joy just as the angel appeared to console Jesus. It is hard to separate joy from sorrow in our lives and that it is why we need to hold the cup in our hands and look carefully to see the joys that are hidden in the sorrows. Jesus tells us that if we are to share in his glory we must also share in his suffering. It is only when we realize that the cup of sorrow is also the cup of joy that we will be able to drink and we need to encourage each other.  Lifting the cup  To lift the cup of our lives is to accept our life with its joys and sorrows, affirming and claiming it as our unique life. We lift them up for others to see and encourage them to lift up their lives as well. When we claim our life together we promise to support each other in our common journey and thus we create community. Often times our wounds prevent us from letting others know us thinking that if they know they will not accept us. In fact they will accept us all the more once they know us because they will feel encouraged. The greatest healing often happen when we no longer feel isolated by our own wounds and discover that others have the same experience. Lifting our cup means sharing our life so that we can celebrate it. When Jesus lifted his cup of suffering on the cross it became rather a cup of blessing as he said he would draw all people to himself when he is lifted up. When we share our lives with one another in this way our sufferings become blessing for ourselves and for others.  Drinking the cup  The cup that we hold and lift we must also drink. When people come to visit us the first thing we do is to offer them a drink. We don’t necessarily drink because we are thirsty but it is a sign of friendship and it helps us to enter into conversation. It is a sign of trust, it breaks the boundaries that separate us. People who are angry with one another will not accept to have a drink together. Drinking the cup means that we internalize our own unique existence with its joys and sorrows. It is the most difficult thing ' to accept ourselves since so many things happened in our lives over which we had no choice like the environment in which we were born, family, tribe and many other things to mention but a few. Drinking the cup is a courageous, hopeful and self confident way of living and not just adapting to hard situations.  When we choose to drink the cup of our lives with deep conviction we find our true freedom and then the cup of sorrow and joy become the cup of salvation. This is what true sanctity is and we become a source of hope to many. Drinking the cup of salvation means emptying the cup of joy and sorrow so that God can fill it with pure life. We need to be saved from so many things that have chained us. Living our life completely in faithfulness according to our call is drinking our cup until it is empty trusting that God will fill it with everlasting life. To do this we need a lot of discipline in our lives which will help us to appropriate and internalize our joys and sorrows and find in them our unique way to spiritual freedom.  There are three disciplines we need to help us. These are: silence, word and action. In silence we confront our true self because we are often overwhelmed by the sorrows of life that we do everything possible to avoid facing them. The media helps to distract us from focusing on ourselves. We also keep ourselves very busy socially. All these are ways to run away from ourselves and turn life into entertainment. Entertainment is everything that gets and keeps our minds away from things that are hard to face. Some entertainment is good to distract us from our worries and fears but when we start living life as entertainment we loose touch with ourselves.  In silence we can let the joys and sorrows emerge from their hidden places without frightening us. It is in silence that we can acknowledge who we are and gradually claim ourselves as a gift from God. If we keep the discipline of silence our inner voices of darkness will gradually loose their strength creating space for the voices of light.  A second way to drink the cup is with the word. It is not enough to claim our joys and sorrows in silence but we must do it in a circle of trusted friends. We need to speak about our lives. If we live our deepest truths in secret and isolated from a community of love, its burden will become too heavy to bear. Silence and speaking must go together. We should share what we have experienced in our silence. We contemplate and give to others the fruits of our contemplation. When we speak about our inner life we risk many things like rejection, misunderstanding and betrayal and so we cannot speak to everyone. When we have caring friends then we can speak from the depth of our hearts. Such friends can offer us a safe and sacred place where we can express our deepest joys as well as sorrows and can care front us in love, challenging us to a greater spiritual maturity. The third way to drink the cup is in Action which can help us celebrate and claim our true self. Here we are not talking so much about what we do but what our vocation is. It means carefully choosing those actions so that we can fully empty ourselves to fulfill God’s will for us. When we listen in silence to God’s voice and speak with our friends in trust, we can know what we are called to do and we can do it with a grateful heart. Silence, speaking and acting are three disciplines that help us drink our cup. If we do these things we are already drinking our cup bit by bit to the bottom. The sorrows of our life will not overwhelm us nor the joy make us loose perspective.  Conclusion  A cup can be used in many ways. We use it to as sign of hospitality but we also use it to poison ourselves or others when we drink things that harm or destroy life. So a cup is a universal symbol which is used at times as a reward for victory. Many times when people win a competition they are given a cup. The cup that Jesus speaks of is a symbol of life filled with joys and sorrows that we can hold, lift and drink as a blessing. When James and John said yes to the drinking of the cup they had no idea what it entailed. They had not even understood Jesus. That first yes had to be followed by many others until their cups were completely empty. The greatest challenge of our spiritual life is that Jesus invites us to drink the cup without offering reward. The intimacy that Jesus had with his Father is the one the strengthened him to drink the cup. Jesus wants to give us the same intimacy so that we can drink our cup and this intimacy is the Holy Spirit. So living a spiritual life is living a life in which the Holy Spirit will guide us and give us the strength and courage to keep saying "Yes" Love to You All,  FJ  

How did we mess up?

It is striking how often history has recognized that there are at least two major movements in the spiritual journey. I call them the path of ascent and the path of descent. Jesus speaks clearly to Peter of first "dressing yourself," and when you are older "letting others dress you" (John 21:18). Psychologists speak of having an ego before you let go of your ego. C.G. Jung speaks of the task of the first half of life as being "individuation" and the second half being "transcendence." The wisdom of India tells a man that he is first a student and householder, and later a "forest dweller" and a wise man. They all intuited something that we are beginning to see was crucial for cultural survival and personal transformation, and yet modern humanism has largely forgotten it and even denies it. We treat the young as if they were adults, and then we resent the old because they seem so childish. Maybe there is a connection.


I am convinced that untold failure and distortion have entered the worlds of psychological development and transformative spirituality because we have not honored these two stages in proper sequence, and therefore have not honored them at all. The tasks, the appropriate energies, and the goals themselves end up being jumbled and confused. When we don't recognize that there are two major life tasks, we usually produce rigid personality structures in the second half of life because they are still idealizing the containment rules for the first half of life. We also produce false surety and grandiosity in young men in the first half of life because they take their petty ego concerns to be final or significant goals. In Jesus words, the elderly keep building "bigger barns" and becoming "fools" (Luke 12:18) when they should be generative mentors for the next generation. While the rich young men reject the initiating challenge: "Sell all that you own and give it away" (Luke 18:22). It seems like pure idiocy to a young careerist who thinks that life is all about upward mobility.



Basically, we have the whole thing backward. We raise children as "liberals" to freely figure out and fend for themselves, and then they rightly seek boundaries, overdo it to contain themselves in mid life, and end up materialists, nationalists, militarists, and "power conservatives" by the end of life. As educators have been telling us for most of the last century, the natural movement of the developmental psyche is exactly the opposite. We need to begin "conservative" with clear boundaries, identity, a sense of "chosenness," and even a kind of specialness and inherent dignity. I like to call it the narcissistic fix that good parents give their children, and good religion gives its adherents. It is surely the best way to start, but it is not a good way to continue and certainly not where the wise man must be and will be at the end of life.



Then as we grow older "in wisdom, age, and grace" (Luke 2:40) we should move toward more compassionate, tolerant, and forgiving world views, what some people associate with more "bleeding heart liberal" thinking. The dualistic mind breaks down in the presence of Divine Mystery and human failure, or at least it should break down. Instead, we largely produce mere ideologues and fundamentalists in the second half of life, who have sadly not done "the fundamentals" of human and spiritual growth. Or we produce a kind of intellectual with-heldness and skepticism that looks like liberal humanism, but is far indeed from any real compassion or generativity toward the world. True holiness and true wisdom are much deeper and broader than mere liberal thinking, however, so do not think I am trying to equate them at all.



Our deconstructed Western culture is so backwards that we have actually turned around the classic patterns of human growth. No wonder we have so many suicidal and depressed teenagers, and so many unhappy and bitter old men. We are supposed to move from a healthy conservatism to a healthy liberation from the same, but we start with an utterly false and unwarranted liberalism, and end up with self-addicted and stuck people by the age of 50. This is not working.



We need instead, as the Dalai Lama says, to "learn the law very well, so we will know how to disobey it properly." Paul makes the same point with different metaphors: "Through the Law I am dead to the Law, so that now I can live for God" (Galatians 2:18). Augustine is even more daring, "Love God, and do what you want!" Such "free thinking" from the very people that we are supposed to admire, shows how unlike them we really are. In fact, such language even sounds dangerous, antinomian, and libertine instead of religious. But that is only to people who have still not completed the tasks of the first half of life! To them it sounds like heresy, and in fact it is -- for them. But for mature men, who have internalized the values of containment and law, "The human one is master even of the Sabbath." (Luke 6:5.) Or "it matters not at all whether one is circumcised [or its baptismal counterpart] or not, all that matters is that one becomes an altogether new creation" (Galatians 5:15). Sounds like Jesus and Paul are two dangerous heretics to me!



When the second half of life is put at the beginning of life, we have old men and women still asking egocentric questions about their own significance and superiority because they did not have the containment to test their own mettle and find their inherent value when they were young. We also have young people speaking with an arrogance and a self assuredness that is totally undeserved. (This has always been true, I am sure, but at least we once had elders who tempered and tested such flights of fancy instead of empowering them.)



When the needed clarity of the first half of life is put off until the second, it merely becomes strong opinions, absolutes, jingoism, and militarism among older people whom we need at that age for integrity, broad mindedness, true leadership, and the "reign of God." We have very few real statesmen in the world today because most are still operating from a teenage psyche of win/lose and more is better. We are all losers as a result. They do not grow up because they refuse to first "grow down," and we do not grow up because we have no models or true elders.

Our Own Reality is Spirituality

One great idea of the biblical revelation is that God is manifest in the ordinary, in the actual, in the daily, in the now, in the concrete incarnations of life, and not through purity codes and moral achievement contests, which are seldom achieved anyway… We do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking… The most courageous thing we will ever do is to bear humbly the mystery of our own reality.

Does God Create?

Full of anxiety and worried about my Future the day I completed my Masters degree in HRM from Loyola College during June 1997. While winding up my Masters degree I was attending a retreat in Our Lady of Lourdes Church in Kilpak, Chennai. The retreat was conducted by Rev.Fr. Agustine Valloran from Chalakudi/Pota from Kerala. During the adoration time on the last day of the retreat, He called specifically my name and said, Francis, 'Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.' These are the assurance he proclaimed while holding the Blessed Sacrament. Till this day, I realize these words are verily true and resounding in my ears.



The Next day, I approached Mr. Anto Vincent in his residence in Alwarpet, he asked me whether I am interested to join with his son Mr. Arul Dev to run “People First Consultants Pvt. Ltd” I was delighted to begin my career and started my work with assistance of Secretary in the building adjacent to St.Antony’s Church in Paris, Chennai. During my career he sponsored me for a “Communication workshop” conducted by Prerana Institute. There the instructor taught me to have a paradigm of “Everything and Nothingness” He enabled me to back track my life and to get rid of ego. The mindset of divine consciousness is singularity of Nothingness and Fullness; it is a state of being, Wherein I create communication in this mindset and being response able. (Responsible).



Later on, I attended “Art of Living” workshop conducted by Swami. Sukabodananda. He taught me, our mind is having a pattern of thoughtfulness and thoughtlessness. Like ridges and furrows (waves) happens in our mind. We need to sustain and experience the “thoughtlessness” as nothingness in our mind. This is called in Vedas, “Chidambara Rahasiam” thus explained by Swamiji. The Sunyata and the Pleroma, it is a state of being and it is not a plenum of action.



Christian mysticism always recognizes the "You" of God.

Yes, it isn't dissolution; it is encounter.

Christian mysticism is characterized by the Incarnation, which is always a gift; it isn't something that the human being gains.

In it, the "You," the duality of a God who gives himself and the man who receives, though there is fusion, always recognizes the other.

We are speaking of duality in unity, as a spiritual marriage. The two always recognize one another; they are not confused; they keep their own identity.



Experience is a category that is used in all the disciplines. I prefer to speak of mystical experience; it is something that God gives to man who receives it passively, and, in fact, makes an effort on receiving it.

It is what John of the Cross calls "the night."There is collaboration in the acceptance, but the initiative is always God's, who makes Himself known. And the greatest revelation takes place in Jesus Christ.

Hence, mystical experience is always Christ-centered and Trinitarian. And it is revealed only gratuitously, without our merits.



Mystics are men and women of this world. Not from another world! Today there is a tendency to trivialize mysticism, as if it were something of another world, and that it has nothing to do with us. But it isn't so. Moreover, the mystics' experience fits in the Church and is related to faith, not foreign to it.



Mystical experience cannot be separated from faith; it can only take place in it. Mystical experience calls for a mystical theology, a reflection whose basis is mysticism itself.



Today there is a persistence of the mystical event. It is part of the post-modern society. This universal mystical richness is rediscovered in Western and Eastern religiosity. And Eastern mysticism has exercised great fascination in the West.



Religion and mysticism are different realities, and it is necessary to make distinctions.



Why does God create? Why is this necessary for a Perfect Being, who is perfect in its quiescence?



It is God, not man, whom the Lord makes the criterion; the heavenly Father, not the dread moral governor as made known to Israel, but our Father. What are His affections, what His will about us? Nothing is more foreign here than the delusion of our being freed now from the indwelling evil of our nature.

"Ye therefore shall be perfect," says the Lord, as your heavenly Father is perfect." His is love, because He is love; it is the energy of His nature going out in goodness where there is need, and above all reference to merit, or congruity with what He loves and is. And this in all its perfection He was then showing in the Lord Jesus, image of the invisible God.

God

In the ancient days, when the first quiver of speech came to my lips, I ascended the holy mountain and spoke unto God, saying, 'Master, I am thy slave. Thy hidden will is my law and I shall obey thee for ever more.' But God made no answer, and like a mighty tempest passed away.


And after a thousand years I ascended the holy mountain and again spoke unto God, saying, 'Creator, I am thy creation. Out of clay hast thou fashioned me and to thee I owe mine all.' And God made no answer, but like a thousand swift wings passed away.

And after a thousand years I climnd again spoke unto God, saying, 'My God, my aim and my fulfilment; I am thy yesterday and thou art my tomorrow. I am thy root in the earth and thou art my flower in the sky, and together we grow before the face of the sun.'

Then God leaned over me, and in my ears whispered words of sweetness, and even as the sea that enfoldeth a brook that runneth down to her, he enfolded me.

And when I descended to the valleys and the plains, God was there also.

Daddy Is Driving

A speaker has shared his experience:

While his family and he were in Europe, there was once that they had to drive 3 days continuously, day and night, to get to Germany. So, they all got into the car -- he, his wife, and his 3 years old daughter.

His little daughter has never traveled at night before. She was scared the first night in the car, with deep darkness outside.
"Where are we going, Daddy?" "To your uncle's house, in Germany."
"Have you been to his house before?" "No."
"Then, do you know the way?" "Maybe, we can read the map."
Short pause. "Do you know how to read the map?" "Yes, we will get there safely."

Another pause. "Where are we going to eat if we get hungry before arriving?" "We can stop by restuarants if we are hungry."
"Do you know if there are restaurants on the way?" "Yes, there are."
"Do you know where?" "No, but we will be able to find some."
The same dialogue repeated a few times within the first night, and also the second night. But on the third night, his daughter was quiet.

The speaker thought that she might have fallen asleep, but when he looked into the mirror, he saw that she was awake and was just looking around calmly. He couldn't help wondering why she was not asking the questions anymore --

"Dear, do you know where we are going?" "Germany, Uncle's house."
"Do you know how we are getting there?" "No."
"Then why aren't you asking questions anymore?"
"Because Daddy is driving."

Because Daddy is driving. This answer from a 3 years' old girl has then become the strength and help for this speaker for the many years follow whenever he has questions and fears on his journey with the Lord. Yes, our Father is driving.

We may know the destination (and sometimes we may just know it like the little girl -- "Germany", without understanding where or what it really is). We do not know the way, we do not know how to read the map, we do not know if we can find restaurants along the way. But the little girl knew the most important thing -- Daddy is driving -- and so she is safe and secure. She knows that her Daddy will provide all that she needs.

Do you know your Daddy, the Great Shepherd, is driving today? What are your behavior and response as a passenger, His child?
You may have asked many questions before, but can you like the little girl, start to realize the most important focus should be "Daddy is driving?"

Hang On To Your Faith

Below is an article on having faith and believing in God's Word & his promises.

The devil's whole strategy is to get us to turn loose of our faith in God and His Word.MARK 4:15
Some people are like the seeds that fall along the path,; as soon as they hear the message, Satan comes and takes it away.

How can the devil steal the Word from someone? Only when it seems untrue. People don't turn loose of what they believe is true.So, to steal the Word, the devil must convince people it's not true. The devil does this by getting us to focus on what our senses tell us, instead of on God's Word, the seed which changes our circumstances when we retain it.As with any seed, the full manifestation of its life is not apparent immediately, but manifests over time with the proper care. God's Word will change your circumstances!If you don't believe God's Word, you won't act on it. Without following God's instructions, you will not be made free (see John 8:31-32).Actions cannot be separated from believing. Whatever you are acting on is what you really believe.In the New Testament, "faith" is the noun and "believe" is the verb form of the same Greek word. So, hanging on to your faith means to keep believing what God said -- regardless of circumstances.HEBREWS 10:23

Let us hold on firmly to the hope we profess, because we can trust God to keep his promise.
A key to hanging on to your faith is found in what you say. When you speak of fear and doubt, faith shrivels. But when you speak faith words in line with the Bible, your faith grows strong.The devil tries to get you to doubt God and His Word. The devil wants you to give up on God, to not trust Him, to not expect Him to do what He said in His Word. Do not give up! God can be trusted.SAY THIS: I will keep on believing and acting on God's Word.

God Bless us all.