CAN YOU DRINK THE CUP?

  CAN YOU DRINK THE CUP?          CAN YOU DRINK THE CUP?         Introduction              This book I am basing my reflection on was written by Henri shortly before he died. “Can you Drink the Cup” is based on Mathew 20: 20-23. It is about Zebedee’s sons and their mother coming to Jesus to ask whether they could sit one on the right and the other on the left in Jesus’ Kingdom . The question that Jesus asked James and John makes the subject of this book. Jesus did not address the question to the mother but to the sons knowing that they must have been the ones who sent the mother. The fact that they came together meant that they had already discussed.  We will reflect on the cup as the symbol of our spiritual journey. We will look at the three images of the cup used by Henri: the holding, the lifting and the drinking. We will look at some of the ways that a cup is used and what we use it for. Just as the cup can be used for many things, our lives too can be used for many things. Some of these ways are good and others not so good.  Holding the Cup    When we put something in the cup it is obvious that to drink what is in we have to hold the cup. It is extremely important that we know what we are drinking. It is much more important with our lives that we know what we are living. It does not matter how many years we have lived but if we don’t reflect on our lives they become meaningless. The saying is true that, “ a life that is not reflected on is not worth living”. When we don’t reflect on what we are living we end up being at the mercy of circumstances. We live whatever comes and are controlled by it. When we reflect we are able to see where we have come from and are more open to the future and can plan. We need to reflect about our life, share it with others and evaluate how we are living.  Reflecting will help us to be focused because in reflecting we ask ourselves questions such as: what am I living, is it worth it, is it good or bad, what do I need to do? Etc. Our experiences of Joy and pain in our lives come not so much from what we live but mostly from the way we think and feel about it. We get in touch with the many good things that come our way as well as the many struggles. Reflecting is very important for growth , development and change. Holding the cup of our life means that we look at our life in a critical way. This demands a lot of courage because we may get very frightened at what we see and be tempted to give up . Many questions may arise that we are not able to answer. Fears, doubts, temptations emerge which can make us decide to just live. If we decide to live without  reflecting we can end up wandering aimlessly. When we look at life critically though it be painful, we maintain our vision and direction. When the past is painful there is temptation to want to forget it and continue living.  To live a reflective life demands hard discipline and because it is painful at times we tend to just move with the flow . We need patience to stop and ask ourselves what we are given to drink, what is in the cup and whether it is safe to drink. Cups are very different and even what we are given to drink and this is because we are so unique. If we are unique it means there is something special that only we as individuals can do and nobody else and if we do not do it, it will remain undone. It is a very big responsibility which we often do not take seriously. Though many people can help us to live our lives, at the end each one will have to make their own choices.  The cup of our life is also a cup of sorrow the same sorrows that made Jesus ask that the cup be removed from him at the garden of Gethsemane. In the midst of sorrow there is also joy just as the angel appeared to console Jesus. It is hard to separate joy from sorrow in our lives and that it is why we need to hold the cup in our hands and look carefully to see the joys that are hidden in the sorrows. Jesus tells us that if we are to share in his glory we must also share in his suffering. It is only when we realize that the cup of sorrow is also the cup of joy that we will be able to drink and we need to encourage each other.  Lifting the cup  To lift the cup of our lives is to accept our life with its joys and sorrows, affirming and claiming it as our unique life. We lift them up for others to see and encourage them to lift up their lives as well. When we claim our life together we promise to support each other in our common journey and thus we create community. Often times our wounds prevent us from letting others know us thinking that if they know they will not accept us. In fact they will accept us all the more once they know us because they will feel encouraged. The greatest healing often happen when we no longer feel isolated by our own wounds and discover that others have the same experience. Lifting our cup means sharing our life so that we can celebrate it. When Jesus lifted his cup of suffering on the cross it became rather a cup of blessing as he said he would draw all people to himself when he is lifted up. When we share our lives with one another in this way our sufferings become blessing for ourselves and for others.  Drinking the cup  The cup that we hold and lift we must also drink. When people come to visit us the first thing we do is to offer them a drink. We don’t necessarily drink because we are thirsty but it is a sign of friendship and it helps us to enter into conversation. It is a sign of trust, it breaks the boundaries that separate us. People who are angry with one another will not accept to have a drink together. Drinking the cup means that we internalize our own unique existence with its joys and sorrows. It is the most difficult thing ' to accept ourselves since so many things happened in our lives over which we had no choice like the environment in which we were born, family, tribe and many other things to mention but a few. Drinking the cup is a courageous, hopeful and self confident way of living and not just adapting to hard situations.  When we choose to drink the cup of our lives with deep conviction we find our true freedom and then the cup of sorrow and joy become the cup of salvation. This is what true sanctity is and we become a source of hope to many. Drinking the cup of salvation means emptying the cup of joy and sorrow so that God can fill it with pure life. We need to be saved from so many things that have chained us. Living our life completely in faithfulness according to our call is drinking our cup until it is empty trusting that God will fill it with everlasting life. To do this we need a lot of discipline in our lives which will help us to appropriate and internalize our joys and sorrows and find in them our unique way to spiritual freedom.  There are three disciplines we need to help us. These are: silence, word and action. In silence we confront our true self because we are often overwhelmed by the sorrows of life that we do everything possible to avoid facing them. The media helps to distract us from focusing on ourselves. We also keep ourselves very busy socially. All these are ways to run away from ourselves and turn life into entertainment. Entertainment is everything that gets and keeps our minds away from things that are hard to face. Some entertainment is good to distract us from our worries and fears but when we start living life as entertainment we loose touch with ourselves.  In silence we can let the joys and sorrows emerge from their hidden places without frightening us. It is in silence that we can acknowledge who we are and gradually claim ourselves as a gift from God. If we keep the discipline of silence our inner voices of darkness will gradually loose their strength creating space for the voices of light.  A second way to drink the cup is with the word. It is not enough to claim our joys and sorrows in silence but we must do it in a circle of trusted friends. We need to speak about our lives. If we live our deepest truths in secret and isolated from a community of love, its burden will become too heavy to bear. Silence and speaking must go together. We should share what we have experienced in our silence. We contemplate and give to others the fruits of our contemplation. When we speak about our inner life we risk many things like rejection, misunderstanding and betrayal and so we cannot speak to everyone. When we have caring friends then we can speak from the depth of our hearts. Such friends can offer us a safe and sacred place where we can express our deepest joys as well as sorrows and can care front us in love, challenging us to a greater spiritual maturity. The third way to drink the cup is in Action which can help us celebrate and claim our true self. Here we are not talking so much about what we do but what our vocation is. It means carefully choosing those actions so that we can fully empty ourselves to fulfill God’s will for us. When we listen in silence to God’s voice and speak with our friends in trust, we can know what we are called to do and we can do it with a grateful heart. Silence, speaking and acting are three disciplines that help us drink our cup. If we do these things we are already drinking our cup bit by bit to the bottom. The sorrows of our life will not overwhelm us nor the joy make us loose perspective.  Conclusion  A cup can be used in many ways. We use it to as sign of hospitality but we also use it to poison ourselves or others when we drink things that harm or destroy life. So a cup is a universal symbol which is used at times as a reward for victory. Many times when people win a competition they are given a cup. The cup that Jesus speaks of is a symbol of life filled with joys and sorrows that we can hold, lift and drink as a blessing. When James and John said yes to the drinking of the cup they had no idea what it entailed. They had not even understood Jesus. That first yes had to be followed by many others until their cups were completely empty. The greatest challenge of our spiritual life is that Jesus invites us to drink the cup without offering reward. The intimacy that Jesus had with his Father is the one the strengthened him to drink the cup. Jesus wants to give us the same intimacy so that we can drink our cup and this intimacy is the Holy Spirit. So living a spiritual life is living a life in which the Holy Spirit will guide us and give us the strength and courage to keep saying "Yes" Love to You All,  FJ